A word to the Brides-to-be...from your's truly

I know I'm no pro at anything. And perhaps most of my thoughts on this matter come from my failure at it {it's funny how that works, isn't it}. But, I wanted to take a moment to say a little word to all the new Enagies out there in this season of planning.

- Soak in these moments. It really is a once in a life time kind of deal.

- Keep a journal. Record your feelings, thoughts, fears, hopes, dreams. Share this with your man. Allow him to write back in it. You'll have this piece of yourselves as an invaluable remnant of this season.

- Don't exert energy on the look of the wedding over the feel of it. Be true to yourself and your man. Let "you" shine through in everything you do.

- Focus on the intention of this marriage you are entering. Let this be the focus of the day. You are not throwing the party of the year {despite how pretty you want it to be}. You are in fact entering into covenant. And the party is just a side-effect of that {And I'm sure it will be the prettiest most detailed filled day ever} ... this one was a hard one for me to grasp. And maybe I only got it on the wedding day itself.
- Pray each day for grace. Be particularly gracious, forgiving, and merciful to one another in this season. It is a BIG season of change and preparation.

- Don't be about the decor over and above the preparation for this little thing called marriage. Continue to devote yourselves to one another more so than you'll devote yourself to this one day.
- Plan your days to plan. And the rest just be with one another. Rather than the other way around.
- Trust him with things on your to-do list. Allow him to share the weight of the day.

- And remember, truly, honestly, remember, it is only a one day kind of thing. In the end, the flowers, the decor, the ring, the dress {Ok. Maybe not the dress. If I had a choice I'd live in my dress everyday}...anyways, all of that is only a brief moment in the rest of your lives and it doesn't even build into the importance and value of the covenant you're making with one another.

So. Stay focused on each other and the love God has blessed you with. 

Stay true to one another despite the stress. 

And most importantly... 

...stay devoted to God and the intention of the union you are making. 

It is a covenant, after all. 

With you, your man, and God.

Happy planning my friends.

photo cred: Matt Wormald

xox